If you spend any time reading wedding magazines, or on facebook groups you will see people comparing the costs of weddings or suppliers telling you that they are based on the average price etc, however little is ever spoken of the real cost of weddings, not just the monetary value, so lets look at the big picture starting with the in quotes average costs, according to the national wedding survey for 2018.
In 2018, the average cost of a wedding rose by 12% to nearly £27,000, however that said the majority of couples choose to spend between £10,000 and £20,000. However as long as you don't go into major debt to get married, does it matter what you spend as long as you have the day you want, and to help with this there are venues, and suppliers to suit everyone's budget, although there are plenty out there that will tell you that you should be spending more, and I hate to say it, but photographers are one of the worse for this. I've seen some telling people the average price is £1,500 where in fact it's officially just over £1,200, however as there is so much difference in packages I personally struggle to work out how you get an average, however as any good statistician will tell you any survey, can be read to give you the results you want to see.
Sadly One thing that is very clear is the with one mention of a wedding certain peoples mentality changes, either suppliers get greedy, friends, family, and even strangers get jealous, or worse of all con-men/women see it as an opportunity to take advantage. Gladly there is the opposite as well, as some people show how genuine they can really be.
A few things I would share from being part of many weddings, and from personal experience is that be very careful when picking your wedding party, all to often people are not as reliable as you may think, yet you feel obliged to ask them to be your bridesmaid or best-man, only for them to be of no help, let you down, or let their own jealousy kick in. Choose people you can really trust and rely on, it will help keep your stress level under control.
Please don't let others peoples jealousy ruin your day, far too often, especially on social media, we see post from brides saying a family member or friend has rushed to book their wedding before theirs, or have stolen their ideas. Remember most people will know you were first, and it's unlikely 100% of the guests will be the same so just have your day your way. Also with this in mind, don't feel like you have to compete with anyone. One piece of advice we often give is don't fall into the additional, additional trap, just because Sally & Bob had a photobooth, or hired a fancy sweet cart, you don't have too, nor do you have to worry about keeping your guests entertained all day, if they are not there just to celebrate your day, save money by not inviting them in the first place.
Finally very simply put, it's your day, do it to your budget, your way, , only invite people who wan't to be their, and only rely on people to support you, you can truly rely on not people you feel obliged to ask, and don't compare your day to anyone else's as they only people who need to be happy at the end of the day is you!
Have a wonderful day. Don't get stressed, and remember to use our free wedding planning tools, on our downloads page if they will help you.
Peace and Love.