Don't listen to bad advice and be yourselves!

July 09, 2020  •  Leave a Comment

Hi All,

Sorry, it's been so long since I last wrote a blog, but unlike some, unless I have something important to say I don't say anything.

As we are in such uncertain times still, and after seeing some very concerning posts from both brides to be and suppliers on social media. I wanted to make sure you confirm any information you see, and also be yourselves, you don't have to follow what everyone else does.

Firstly in regards to the current situation, it's "MY" opinion that there will be no sudden changes in the rules regarding weddings and events, a few suppliers and venues are insisting everything will be back to normal by September, whatever the new normal will be.

As much as it breaks my own heart to watch 99% of our couples have to postpone their weddings until next year, some after already moving it a couple of times already this year, but common sense had to prevail. If we look at the advice being issued by the World Health Organisation, they fear the worse is not over, and that now there is a possibility the virus is also airborne and not just spread by contact and water droplets.

We also have to be prepared for areas going back into lockdown, once again stopping events even if the restrictions are relaxed further.

I'm happy to put my hands up in the air and say I don't know what is going to happen, I can make educated guesses based not on social media or the press, but by looking at the official statement, however, even that changes.

So please, please don't trust anything you read in the press or social media, also check any information on the official statements/website, and that goes for everything not just in regards to Covid.

 

The second item I wanted to quickly raise is related to a lot of posts I see on social media asking what others are doing for songs, and trends, and other parts of their wedding, it also goes for friends and family dictating what should happen, especially some older family members who forget weddings have changed a lot in the last 50 years.

A couple of examples of this is first dance songs, as great a song as it was Perfect by Ed Sheeran, has used as a first dance song at 90% of the weddings we attended last year, yes the words were just right but did the song actually mean anything to the couple, was it their taste in music, some yes, very much so, but I expect at least a minimum of 25% only had that song because it seemed right.

Please, be true to yourselves, if you like rock, country, or even thrash metal have that music, don't stop being you to conform with what is expected, in 40 years would you rather think back and dance to a song you love, or one that fitted at the time.

The same does with other aspects of your day, just because other couples on wedding groups are having a videographer, and they always state you will regret having one, would you? If you have the budget and really want one, go ahead, that is your choice but never feel your day is going to be less without anything. 

Entertainment is another big issues, I see more and more couples asking what entertainment should you have to stop your guests getting bored; personally I'm a huge believer that if a guest is not just happy to be there to celebrate your special day, they should not be invited. The same goes for being forced to invite people by your parents or Grandparents unless they are paying for the wedding, they do not have the right to create your guest list. and force you to have people there you either don't know, like, or have seen since you were 5, especially how expensive weddings are now.

Social media is wonderful, it connects you in ways we never expected 20 years ago, but I also believe it encourages people to feel like they have to do more to compete with others, as not to feel inferior in any way.

Be true to yourselves, be kind to yourselves, and use social media as intended, to connect socially and not as your bible or guide to life.

Peace and Love.

Roger.

 

 


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